Sometimes as mothers we get caught up in the mundane responsibilities we have to do everyday. Such as laundry, cleaning the house, running errands, work, school pick up/drop off, cooking dinner, homework, I mean the list can go on and on. There are a lot of times where I have to take a step back and reevaluate my relationships with my children. My connection with them is so important to me, and honestly it’s really what matters most. My pile of dirty clothes and sink full of dishes will have to sit a little longer while I try and connect with those small little people!
I’m sure your connection with your children is just as important to you, so I’m sharing 5 ways that have worked for me! Lets get started!
I am such a big believer in everyone sitting around the table and eating dinner together. You can ask your children about their day and it allows us as parents to monitor our children’s moods and behaviors. We can identify more easily if they are feeling depressed, stressed, hurt, insecure or are needing some extra love and attention. You can read more about the benefits of family mealtime here.
Date Your Child
Spend one on one time with each child. Every couple months I take my oldest out on a “date” with me. She looks forward to it every time. She gets to decide what we do (obviously there are limits) and I get to focus on just her. Every time I do it I’m always so glad I did. I get to know her better and she gets my undivided attention and we get that quality time together that I think every child craves.
Family Date Nights
One night out of the weekend we will do something together as a family and the other night just Jon and I will go out. For family date nights, we go to the park, or to lake and feed the fish, or just walk around the mall. It can be chaotic at times especially if you have little ones, but honestly there is nothing I’d rather be doing than spending time with the ones I love. Even if that does include some serious meltdowns. 😉
Go For a Walk
This is seriously one of my very favorite things to do with my children. There is something about being outdoors that makes everyone more happy and more willing to connect! We love talking and walking to the gas station and then getting everyone a treat once we are there. Food, the outdoors, and being with one another is an amazing way to connect with them!
Take Family Trips
This past January we took a family vacation to San Diego. It was last minute and it was one of the best vacations I’ve ever gone on. We went with just our little family and my love and appreciation that grew for them on that trip was unexplainable! We had never really gone on a family vacation with just us because I was always making excuses saying it would be too much work, our kids are too little to appreciate it, etc. But I am SO GLAD we did! It was exactly what the doctor ordered for our family.
Look for Opportunities
Look for those small opportunities to talk with each other. Driving to and from school, driving to activities, the grocery store, bedtime, cooking dinner, etc. Ask them about school, their friends, how they like their teacher, what their favorite things are, what they look forward to this summer, etc. My favorite time to talk with my oldest is to and from school. Most of the time it’s just the two of us in the car, so I try and take that opportunity to get to know her better and her feelings.
I hope some of these suggestions will help with your connection with your children. I’m sure you’re already doing most of them but sometimes a reminder is all we need as a parent! If you have any other suggestions I’d love to hear them. Leave me a comment below!