Wow! I have been so terrible on keeping up with Charlee’s adoption journey. I think I just feel as though this foster and adoption with Charlee has gone so smooth. There have been so few ups and downs. If you are new to MillionWaysToMother.com, and would like to read from the beginning click HERE and join a journey that has changed my life and blessed it more than I could even have imagined.
The foster and adoption process with Heath taught me that faith can overcome fear. And with Charlee, the pure knowledge that everything was going to work out for us all overcame all other emotions. Like anything in life, there wasn’t a guarantee that we would be able to adopt Charlee… but with every passing day that she was with us and no contact from the bio parents we KNEW that she was ours. We would get in such a rhythm in life that we would forget that the adoption wasn’t finalized until we would hear from her Social Worker.
In my last updated post HERE I mentioned that we were on the “quicker” adoption journey. HAHA nothing is quick when dealing with the government. My husband blames ALL red tape on lawyers. He says that every step in the process is a result of a lawsuit and that the state just doesn’t want to be liable. I don’t know if that is entirely true but it would sure be nice if they would apply the ‘common sense’ rule a little more often and speed things up a bit.
We FINALLLY TPR’d (terminated parental rights) in March. They did have to wait a period of time for a birth father to come forward but no one did.
The TPR is essentially step 9 of 10 to be able to finalize the adoption. Getting this close to the end gives me both butterflies and knots in my stomach. The anticipation, the worst-case scenarios, the end in-sight all makes me feel like I drank 10 Redbulls while not sleeping for 48 hours. Deep down I know the bio parents won’t show up but this little ity bity part of me worries, what if? If they do, the whole process would start all over if they mentioned they would like to try to get their child back. I can’t even fathom getting that far and having to start again.
TPR went super quick, like 3 minutes quick. Neither bio parent showed up. There isn’t much to contest in my case. After TPR they give the bio parents ANOTHER 33 days to come back and contest. Like seriously?!?! They haven’t been in the picture for 8 months… lets give them one more month to consider wanting to shape up enough? Anyways my 33 days came and went and then another month came and we FINALLLY got a court date for Adoption Day.
June 1, 2017 is a fabulous day in my book! The judge allowed me to record the whole process. It was such a neat experience. We had the same judge for both Heath and Charlee’s adoptions. He remembered me because I cried through Heath’s adoption and he was prepared with tissues for me this time. I love looking at the pictures and videos from that day. The smiles that are on my face, my husband’s face, and my children’s are priceless. Even our little Charlee had a smile from ear to ear! Charlee’s smile is a constant on that precious little face. She completes our family with a huge cherry on top.
The single most asked question that we get now is… What are you going to do if Heath & Charlee’s birthmother gets pregnant again??? If I was perfect, I would say… ‘Keep ‘em coming!’ Rather, most days I want to give the following answers:
- Shoot me!
- Kill me!
- Did you say Loony Bin!
- How do I change my phone number so nobody can reach me?
But the truth is that it would be a hard choice as to which child to give away so I can make room for another!
June 3, 2017 is a day that is etched in our hearts. We were able to dress the 7 of us in the whitest whites we could find and go to the Las Vegas LDS Temple to complete the sealing ordinance of our new Eternal Family (a process of being bound as a family on earth as well as in heaven, to learn more go HERE). Latter Day Saint Temples are so peaceful and heaven-like, but our littles are a little rowdy. So rather than peacefully listening to the sealing ordinance and tearing up… we were juggling Heath and Charlee and laughing. Even though it wasn’t a day filled with a miraculous spiritual experience, it was still a day that couldn’t have been more perfect.
When I think of how things will be in the next life… the life after this Earthly Life… I can instantly picture my little family that day surrounded by all of my family and dear friends. That is what strive for and that is what I want.
The family that made this all possible. We have all become one.
Signed, Sealed, Delivered…She’s OURS
We swear to tell the truth
My amazing supportive family