We are so excited to have Shan Walker from The How to Guru guest post for us. She has some fabulous tips on how to see Marriage as a joy rather than a burden. She has a fabulous blog on everything from recipes to tips to be a happier wife and we recommend heading over for a visit at thehowtoguru.org.
Married life is not always viewed in such a positive light these days. You know, there’s always that old joke about marriage being the ball and chain. At least one person at the wedding shower gives the advice that couples must live it up before the marriage vows are spoken. Yet, married life can be one of the greatest joys in life – if we let it.
Jesus came so that we could have life more abundantly. That same God designed marriage as a great thing. Shouldn’t we be living life abundantly through our marriages too? I’m asking. Not an assignment we must trudge through. Not an end to happiness as we know it.
Yes, things will definitely change when we say, “I do.” Yes, it is tough to learn how to live with another human and become one. We’ve lived our entire lives basically thinking only of ourselves to this point. Married life can be an amazing joy when we perceive it in the light of how God intended. Marriage is a clear picture of our relationship with God.
JOYS OF MARRIED LIFE
Here are just seven benefits of being married. Of course, these only scratch the surface of the joys of spending life with your husband.
THE BEST MOMENTS ARE SHARED
Part of being one with your spouse is sharing the best joys of this world – together. How about that special tourist spot that you can’t forget about and he can’t either because you experienced it together. Or how about that monumental change in your lives like moving away from your hometown that only he understands because he lived through it too. These moments add up and after a while you have a lifetime of wonderful memories that were shared by only the two of you.
YOUR BEST FRIEND IS ALWAYS BY YOUR SIDE
Even though your spouse isn’t perfect, they are still around when others in your life bail. You’ll feel let down by your man from time to time because, well, he’s human. He’ll make mistakes. But it’s a joy to know you have a best friend to come home to every night that is sharing this sometimes-good, sometimes-tough world we live in.
YOU CAN BE YOURSELF AND STILL FEEL LOVED
Who else has seen you with that crazy morning hair, quirky habits, and silly laugh over and over and loves you anyway? Yep, as time goes on, your spouse sees the person that you really are on good days and the bad ones. What’s amazing is when couples are able to revel in each other’s layers of interesting characteristics that make us all unique. It’s cool that you can be yourself and be loved no matter what.
KNOWING SOMEONE ALWAYS HAS YOUR BACK
Recently my sweet daughter-in-love wanted me to read a card that she gave my son for his twenty-third birthday. She chose to list twenty-three reasons that she loves him. It was precious. One way that she listed is how protective he is over her. Wow. She’s a resilient, smart, beautiful working woman, but she loves knowing that he has her back – for life. No matter how strong women are, we love that someone is looking out for us at all times and protecting us from everything that they possibly can.
HAVING SOMEONE TO DREAM WITH
At the beginning of a married life together, there are many hopes and dreams for the future. Spiritual goals, a home, kids, a good life, whatever that means for you as a couple. It’s a joy to have that one person to dream about your future with. It’s another level of joyfulness when some dreams do come true over the years and that there is someone there who has waited patiently for them with you.
HAVING SOMEONE TO SERVE
Proverbs says that a wife is given to her husband as a helper. She is given for his benefit. It is a privilege to have a husband to love, cherish, feed, and yes, to clean up after. It’s a joy to serve our husbands when we remember that our job is to do him good all the days of his life. Not perfectly. Not without arguments, mistakes, and regrets, but with a mindset that we are reflecting Christ when we have a servant heart for him. It is only because Christ first loved us that we can love and serve without wanting anything in return.
Even when you think that you know everything there is to know about a person, there is always more to learn about your husband. He may know a lot about you but there is so much more to learn. Trading childhood stories, big fears, high hopes, accomplishments, future plans, and what makes you happiest can be fun to share with each other. Spending time with him during his favorite pastime can be fun too.