What is THE most important thing to you in this life? Biggest events in your life? Do these two coincide? For most, the family unit is the answer to these two questions. We will do anything in this life to make these people happy and to live with them forever. For this “forever” to happen we all must have the same goals, values, and whys. Why did we get married, have kids, and what do we want out of this life?

A mission statement will help answer these questions for you and help guide your way through this life.

“A family mission statement is a combined, unified expression from all family members of what your family is all about — what it is you really want to do and be — and the principles you choose to govern your family life.” -Stephen Covey (author of 7 Habits of Highly Effective People)

A mission statement is not something you write overnight… But fundamentally, your mission statement becomes your constitution, the solid expression of your vision and values. It becomes the criterion by which you measure everything else in your life.

Do not feel rushed take your time and most importantly enjoy the time together as you make this a priority in your family.

Step 1- Have a Family Meeting

Plan a date and time for all of your family members to gather together. While the Patriarch and Matriarch will help guide the mission statement all family members need to participate.

Make it a special experience for everyone. You could do this on a vacation and make one night specifically for brainstorming your mission statement, pizza night around the table, or even just gather together in your pj’s. Make it enjoyable and a night to remember.

Step 2- Start a Discussion about Setting Goals as a Family

Here are some good starting questions that will get everyone talking:

  1. What is the purpose of our family?
  2. Where do you see our family in the future?
  3. What kind of family do we want to be?
  4. What kinds of things are we interested in?
  5. What makes our home a safe haven or a place you want to come home to?
  6. Is our home a place you want to invite people over to?
  7. And if not what would make it a more ivitable place?
  8. Does our family embarrass you at all?

Give everyone a chance to voice their opinion in a civil matter. Remind all others to listen with a whole heart to each persons concerns and ideas.

Step 3- Everyone Write down your Family Values

Each person will have their own particular values but what are their main core values?

Such as :

  • God
  • love
  • service
  • honesty
  • kindess
  • empathy
  • health
  • fun
  • vacations

Step 4- Decide as a Family Your Top Values

As a family decide on your top values to put into your mission statement. In our family we also have a Family Motto that we knew we would want included in our Mission Statement. So feel free to be open and just allow it to represent YOUR family.

Step 5- Write Your Family Mission Statement

Now that you have gathered together all your thoughts you have plenty to work with to make your mission statement. Keep it short so that you and your children are able to remember it or at least parts of it. Making it long will not allow for anyone to memorize and will then become useless.

There is not a certain outline to follow when writing a mission statement. Be as creative or not to fit your family. It can be as simple as naming who your family is and then listing out your decided on values or a little more elaborative if that is how you ALL choose. Remember to allow everyone a say.

Step 6- Hang Up Your Family Mission Statement for all to See

Now that you are finished, GO print it out and hang it up. Make sure it is in a place that your family and others will be able to see it often. It will be conversation starter for others as well as let them know what your value.

*Mission Statements just like our lives can change. There are trials, experiences, seasons, and much more in life that will allow for mission statements to need some editing. Allow that and reevaluate. Our values should NOT need much changing so try not to make this a regular occurrence.

Mission Statement Example

Below is our final version of the Villamor Family Mission Statement.  We had our good friend spice up the look so we could hang it in our family room.

family mission statement core values service love happiness no empty chairs in heaven


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